Our very first toy was a small vibrator we bought from Japan years ago. But it was showing signs of breaking, so we bought this to try. Hmm.. it's very different from a vibrator but it does the trick. Just not very good to use it with intercourse as it's bulky. Only good for foreplay I guess. But we are still exploring the best way to use. Afterall, when you have young kids, sometimes a quickie is appreciated.